My boyfriend and I are actually talking about something very similar. In my case, I was a virgin when we started dating, but quickly rushed into sex way before I was ready due to some traumatic losses that happened at that time—sex was a means of distraction, not primarily love or even passion.

I’ve since told him that I feel like I missed out on fully experiencing my first time, and he’s been very understanding and open to re-doing it so to speak.

Everyone’s experiences are different, and virginity can mean as much or little to you as you want. Personally, I understand what you mean by yearning for the romance of it. If you love and trust him, ask—I’m sure you can explain how it would be meaningful to you