Asking what they’re looking for

Here is a glimpse into male life ... Cause male life depends a lot of where you are in the pecking order. This is life as an average* man

I'm an average guy, so I never ask what girls are looking for as that will brand me as someone needy.

You know .. Among average guys there is a shit load of dudes that are so lonely and desperate that they'll try to box in any girl as their GF. I do not want to risk coming of as one of those dudes EVER. So no mention of relationships before I've seen girl naked more than once.

That is the thing ... As an average dude my first and foremost challenge is to convince girl that I'm not desperate nor needy and know my way around women.

Likewise ... when a girl asks me what I am looking for, I need to slide off and say something like "I'd off course love to met the love of my life and live happily ever after, but you know how it is .. This is dating. It's all about chemistry, so I'm just taking it one day at a time. Whether it's just going to be a date, a roll in the hay or forever after"

I don't know if similar dynamic apply to girls?

That how serious you are is inversely dependent on how attractive you are compared to the other person. The less attractive you are the less serious you need to come of at first and the hotter you are the more worried then other person might be that you'll just move on the next day (and thus ruin it by being too needy and demand seriousness).

\Average means truly average .. as when dating online then at best 2 right swipes a week with plenty of 0 right swipe weeks.*

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