askTRP Megathread November 01

Long time lurker and reader, figured I’d post about an experience I had this month and ask for feedback. I’m 26/M, lift, travel overseas quite extensively, have a pretty good job, and do things I enjoy. I do well with woman (average about 3-5 a month?), but don’t go too much out of my way to chase them. Basically things haven’t been going bad.

Two week ago, I asked a girl (21y/o) out that I had matched with via tinder and had on Snapchat for some time now. We always would have some funny commentary on each other’s story, and she actually originally asked me out for drinks a few months ago, but I was out of town. The timing worked out and I asked her to a local comedy show. This girl is really gorgeous and double majoring in two intense subjects at a top university, but likes all the same music, comedians, movies etc. so in my mind, this wasn’t going to be a disposable chick.

The night of the show, she arrived 35 min late — not my style, but fine. We enjoyed the comedy show, I escalated as usually, she threw back a few drinks, had a few laughs, and it was flowing. She said we should hit another bar. We did; and this is where I escalated alot more, snuck in a few kisses, the conversation got sexual. In this part of the conversation, she also explains that she broke up with her ex not too long ago, because he wasn’t experimental enough and she’s looking to try new things, but they’re still friends* (comes up later) She mentions she like spontaneity, so I suggest we hit another city over to grab some food — she loves the idea, gets all excited and is down. Now at the third spot, we get into deeper conversation about life, family, goals, etc. She mentions she doesn’t normally feel challenged on dates and that she’s impressed that we’re talking about these things and she feels comfortable. Things really escalated here as we were making out, groping, and doing all things that are signs of “lets go fuck”. We head out, so I can take her back home, as I park we make out even more, but I didn’t get the go ahead to come up (I could have maybe been more aggressive, might have been my own fuck up as I play the scenario back in my head — should’ve been more direct, but as I said I thought she might’ve been a long term thing).

Next day, I shoot her a text mentioning a song she showed me, and she responds saying she’s glad I liked it and suggest some more tracks by the artist. I don’t respond, but shoot her a text the next day which is a Saturday, asking her when am I helping her ‘study’ (something that was mentioned on the date, and was code for going to her apartment to fuck). She replied ‘Sunday funday’ hours later, but I’m the time between had looked at my snap story and posted her own. I thought that was strange, but I responded ‘What time?’ Then radio silence until Monday. She post more snap stories that night, and on Sunday as well. She watches all of mine over the weekend too. Very strange. Her snap story on Sunday which I didn’t actually click on, showed in the icon what looked to be her ex (they go to university together and study the same subjects) so I thought, hmmm, she’s probably still fucking him, but by most measurements I’m ahead of him.

On Monday I get a “Sorry I fell off the face of the planet...blah blah” text, to which I gave a short reply. Later in the day I asked her how she was recovering from the weekend. Radio silence. She’s still watching my snap stories after and posting her own though, which begins to really irritate me.

Fast forward a week, which in the time that has passed, I’ve slept with 2 different girls, but my mind comes back to her. In that week she’s watched all my stories and posted many of her own. So I thought, maybe she just wasn’t feeling me, the date, or is still back and forth with her ex. I’ll admit though, I’m very fond of her, more so of any girl I have been in a while and had a great time, and think she’s has a lot of compatible interest. So I made a funny comment on one of her snap stories and she responds with a “lmaooo”, but nothing else. A few days later, I sent her a snap basically saying “Hey I had a great time, and you seemed to as well, I’m down to do it again, if you’re not feeling it though let me know.” She opens the snap. No response. I figure, I got my answer. I remove her as a friend from Snapchat, because there’s obviously no point.

The next day she sends me a long text saying “Sorry for the late reply, I was out all evening. I had a great time with you that evening, but what are you looking for though?” I respond that I’m looking for physical and mental exploitation and that I thought she was an interesting person, and pose the question back to her.

She finally says, “I don’t know what I’m looking for, blah blah blah, I should focus on me, blah blah blah, you’re s really cool guy though, blah blah blah, let’s me friends.” I never responded, because I’m not going to be her friend obviously, and I felt like it I said “no thanks” or any of those variations it would seem I was hurt, where as I actually just stopped caring because she could’ve just said that from the beginning.

My question to you all is, which areas did I handle poorly and need refinement; also I’m counting her as officially a fuck I’ll never have, but am I too quick to take it off the burner? I’m not focusing on her, but I’d def like to optimize the chances of ever getting to sleep with her if the chance presented itself. Any other comments/suggestions are welcome.

TL;DR : Went on date with girl, she’s young, date went very well, communication after was weird, I asked her if she wanted to do it again or not, she said let’s just be friends, I didn’t respond. Still wouldn’t mind fucking her in the future.

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