C'est la vie.
Your religion teaches the world that my daughter is sinful.
Everybody is sinful, I'm sinful, even the Pope is sinful. Only Jesus is sinless.
Your religious leaders want to treat my daughter like a second class citizen.
Which ones? The presiding bishops of the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America and the Episcopalian Church are both women. I consider them, LGBT/Women's rights liberal women, to be my religious leaders a lot more than the Pope or the President of the Southern Baptist Convention.
Your god killed thousands of babies (according to a book I find to be a load of crap)
I cannot deny that, nor can I justify it. I find that to be one of the hardest parts of my faith, but i have to trust there was a reason.
But I am not allowed to have an abortion?
Depending on who you talk to, you can. The previously mentioned ELCA and the Episcopalian Church allow for it, as does I believe the Presbytarian Church and the United Methodists, and about 40% of US Catholics support legalized abortion. I personally oppose abortion, but not for religious reasons.
I won't bother getting in to the last millennium of disgusting shit Christianity has done to people on this planet.
Ungodly things. The crusades were unchristian, as we're lynchings and slavery and anything else. But certianly faith can't be blamed for that, hell even in the crusades the Normans only joined in to set up their own colonies in the middle east rather than for Christian reasons, and they started because the Arabs were trying to take Byzantium. Religion isn't the cause, it's rather been twisted in disgusting ways to fit their b.s.. Jesus told us in Matthew that loving your neighbor is the greatest commandment, and Paul told us in 1 Corinthians that Love is the greatest thing.
That's an integral part of you? Well, I'd rethink my belief system if it had anything to do with your religion.
I don't hate people, or at least I try my best to. Since I became Christian I've completely changed for the better because of Christ and his message of love rather than hate. Jesus didn't speak hate in the gospels, instead he gave messages of love your neighbor as yourself, and if you live by the sword you die by the sword. He told us to be peacemakers in his name. I can't speak for those who twist his message, but I do only what Jesus has told me to do.