Assume the other person likes you. It doesn't have to be true, just ASSUME IT. TRUST ME. ASSUME IT.

My biggest struggle has been not trying to overcompensate by being TOO nice out of fear that I won't be liked. I've managed to fix this in recent years, but it was after a co-worker I thought I had made a genuinely positive connection with told our other coworkers "she worships the ground I walk on." I realized in that moment that I've come to not carry myself with enough self respect, and had to figure out how to find a balance between being a positive presence in people's lives but not being perceived as weak, an underdog or a door mat. I sort of figured it out in my mind and made it work really well for me, but I never did manage to put it into words. I realize now that the change was "assuming people like me and nothing less." Now that I'm aware of what it was, I can start doing it more consciously and applying it with more confidence!

Thanks for asking by the way, how about you? :)

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