Attractive men, how did you find out you were attractive?

I always thought this was strange. Good looking men often don't know they are good looking. Females always do.

For me, my situation was a little bit weird. Just as a heads up, my parents were pretty conservative and I was taught that dating and hanging out with girls and stuff was a big sin.

I would get a bunch of mixed signals. I think this is because my parents were from India and I was sort of exotic. My school was mostly white with a good amount of black and mexican 20-30%.

I can remember once going into a suit store with my dad and this good looking woman at the store asked me with a straight face whether I was a model. My dad was intrigued by the idea and humored her about how much they make. I brushed it off, thinking she was just trying to butter me up to buy something.

In high school two of the hottest white girls I knew hit on me. Bear in mind, my social skills were really lacking and I was shy and didn't talk much if at all. This one hot girl would sit in front of me in English class. She would talk to me all the time ad then half way through the semester she started saying things to me like "I bet your mom is really beautiful...My dad is against me dating black guys, but not anybody else...You left early yesterday; I was disappointed." She even had a boyfriend. One of her best guy friends told me twice in the hall way that she thought I was hot. I just thought he was messing with me since the same guy once told me I look like Count Olaf from A Series of Unfortunate Events.

Black people were really weird with me too. A random black girl in the hall way pushed me really hard one time. Another time a huge black dude randomly told me I looked like Alien from the Alien movies in the hall way.

I naturally did well in school, so my high school made me one of the math tutors to prepare the "regular" kids for the state exam for a few weeks. One of the girls in my 4 person group was super hot. She also had a boyfriend. She would ask me embarrassing questions in front of everyone like whether I had a girlfriend and whether I had kissed a girl. When I said no to both, she said "Aww, I want to be your first kiss." I was kind of awkwarded out by how forward this girl was being. There was a chubby white kid next to me who I could tell was super jealous when she said it.

Another girl I knew in middle school who previously dated two of my friends tried to get my number. She swore it was just for school, but I never gave it to her.

The best looking black girl I met in middle school asked me if I had any black in me. When I said no she said she wanted to give me some. I was just weirded out and I think I left some bad vibes with her and her friend thinking I was racist or something.

Then in high school I got a lot more advances, that I never really thought about at the time. I just thought they were really awkward moments for me socially. I started dressing a bit better and I had amazing hair. It was shiny and super nice looking. Black women would always ask me who did my hair and where they could get a wig that looked as good as it did.

One hot girl asked me a couple of times where I was from, while gazing deeply into my eyes. She also had a boyfriend. We also met another time after graduation and I said hello to her while we both were stuck in the rain in front of the rain. I got some interesting vibes from her but I cut her off short and went home.

Another good looking girl would always talk to me and follow me around. One time she came to the cafeteria with me and put her purse down to get food and I just got up and left. A few weeks later I saw her making out with another Indian guy in the hallway. I guess she moved on.

Another girl who was a year younger than me had like a super crush on me because she would tell people she knew me when I didn't know her, and she would look away any time I looked at her or talked to her.

A group of black girls once passed by me and one of the girls gave me a hug out of nowhere and started saying "oooh boy will you be my boyfriend!?," while her friends laughed.

One other of the super cute girls in my grade randomly came up to me twice to tell me I was smart. I never knew how to respond to this. One time I swear I just said "Uhh...thanks, you're really good at giving compliments."

Another girl told me I should be a model rather matter of factly in front of her boyfriend.

However, there was also a girl in my gym class who told me I ran like a faggot. I have no idea what that meant, but I wanted to tell her that her breasts looked like mosquito bites.

Later in college I remember this one Mexican girl telling me during my chemistry lab that I dressed really well. A guy in that lab also told me that I looked so much like Bradley Cooper. When I asked him who that was, he said "well he's an actor, and all you need to know is girls think he's hot."

I also got hit on by at least 3 different gay guys.

Oh ant the most awkward one of all was my Art Appreciate teacher in college. She was this older Chinese woman who asked me one day whether I had ever done a self portrait and told me I was really beautiful. I just thought it was creepy at the time.

Those are pretty much all the incidents I can think of. I am sure I was an ugly duckling as a kid, partly because my mom would buy all me clothes like 2 sizes too big, and I didn't now how to dress or look decent until high school. I also didn't know how to behave socially until the end of high school when I became more confident and articulate and started working out.

Oh, and my wife tells me sometimes that I'm good looking. I guess she can't be that wrong since she married me.

TLDR; Girls confusing, and damn, so many missed opportunities.

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