Attractive people of reddit, how does it feel to have won the "Genetic Lottery"?

A serious answer?

Last week, I was home for the holidays and ran into some old classmates at a bar. Even though it's been over a decade since I graduated high school, they introduced me as "the prom queen" and then droned on about how I was "the pretty one."

That's it. That's all they remembered about me. No mention of shared memories, my personality or hobbies, or even the fact that I worked three jobs to be the first in my family to graduate from college- nope, I was the empty shell of a person remembered for nothing more than the way I looked.

To be honest, I know I'm supposed to be grateful and feel like it's opened a lot of doors for me (which it likely has), but it's really also made me cynical in a lot of ways.

  • I purposely dress down and I get incredibly comfortable when I have to dress up. The reaction I get from people when I do make an effort is TOTALLY different- it sucks. Girls are bitchy for no reason. It's crazy.

  • I have very few close friends. Guys are rarely interested in getting friendzoned, and I don't exactly make the best "winglady" for other girls. The friends I do have, though, are awesome- and I'd rather have deep relationships with a few people than shallow relationships with a lot.

  • I've never casually dated. Just the thought of going on an app like Tinder makes me want to throw up. I've been a serial monogamist for as long as I can remember, and it's not from a fear of being alone- it's from a fear of being pursued.

  • I feel a constant, overwhelming need for self-improvement so I can "prove" myself- that I'm more than what people see. I'm a total workaholic. I spent most of my holiday break alone learning new programming languages, and I am constantly reading so I have something interesting to talk about.

  • I moved to a big city. That actually probably has been one of the best decisions I've made. It's nice being nameless and surrounded by people who are more attractive than you.

TL;DR: How much would you trust people if the only thing they remembered about you was the way you looked?

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