Crap like this is why I never got married. I won't lie, I wanted to, but I've seen crap like this happen to too many male friends and had absolutely nobody care to back them up. The first time I saw something like this was when I was 20, my best friend had recently got married. He was having anger issues, and he had two kids. He wasn't abusing his wife, or his kids, or even breaking things, but he'd go into his room and yell into his pillow every day. I'm over for a get-together, a lot of family is there, and things are going well, she decides out of the blue to bring this up to everyone there, about him screaming into the pillow every day. People start villifying him, his grandpa tells him he needs to get his shit under control or he'll snap one day and hit his wife or kids. So my friend goes, okay, fine, I'll talk to the doctor about mental health treatment, just accepted that he had a problem and he was going to fix it because he really didn't want to hurt anyone.
People that were there when that got brought up have never let him get over it. It's permanently tainted the way they view him.
Now, a few years ago (this is about ten years after this incident), we go to his wife's sister's wedding. So pretty much the same crowd there that was at that last gathering, where his wife pulled a stealth intervention on him for yelling shit into his pillow. And his wife, well, over the years... she became really... angry. Always yelling at him and their kids about stuff. We're at the wedding reception, everyone's having a good time, but she's just chewing him out, constantly, about things you shouldn't be bringing up in public space. Just yelling at him about anything you can imagine, things about money, things about problems with the kids, yelling at the kids for not sitting up straight, for messing with their placemats, just yelling yelling yelling. And then his grandpa (the guy who told him he should seek treatment for his anger issues) tells her that her husband sought help for his anger management, maybe she should have some respect for him and do the same for herself.
She tells him to mind his own business... and he just goes "Okay, then." and goes and sits back down. She yells at her husband some more, I think really just posturing that she's going to do it and noone's going to stop her, and then they all get up and leave because she tells him it's time for them to go.
Noone else said anything to her. I've been around them a couple times since, mainly because he's my friend and I don't want to abandon him, but she's still the same way. She takes her life stress out on him, blames him for everything, breaks his shit, and noone does anything. If he complained about it he'd probably be called a bad husband. But she pulls a stunt on him where she calls him out for screaming into a pillow because he's immensely stressed, when family and friends are all gathered in one place, and everyone gets all over him and backs her up.
And because people gossip, and I'm present in circles sometimes when things are said, I know that some people still hold the fact that he used to scream into pillows against him, and use the fact that he sought out anger management as an excuse for his wife to now treat him this way. Because he used to scream into pillows and then sought treatment so it wouldn't become something more, she's completely excused to yell at him, break his shit, put holes in their walls that she expects him to fix, and she isn't held to any standard.
There's a reason men's suicide rates are far higher than women's.