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I'm reposting this comment of mine from a few days ago, because it's fitting.

what you're both describing sounds more closely related to tumblr's version of "radical feminism." tumblr radical feminism =/= feminism.

bell hooks is a radical feminist thinker / author. she wrote a book titled "The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, & Love." this ENTIRE book goes into how the patriarchy [which isn't a catch-all term for "men," but is rather a system set up a long time ago that made men the ones writing the rules for EVERYTHING] actually does more harm than good to men themselves! the book also goes into detail about how many radical feminist authors have put no serious thought into how patriarchy hurts men, preferring instead only to look at how men / the patriarchy at large have hurt women.

patriarchal values taught me, while I was growing up, that I wasn't allowed to feel emotions that weren't anger. I learned that if I did show off any other emotion, I would be called a faggot / bitch / pussy. I got beat up more than once in high school because I didn't follow the rules of being a "guy."

patriarchal values also taught me that the only way I would be taken seriously was by dominating people through displays of anger. I used to scream at people to get the things I wanted. I used to make threats & insult people to break their will so that they would stop NOT DOING WHAT I WANTED THEM TO DO. my life was a fucking hole. I hated everyone, & I hated myself. bell hooks' CRAZY FEMINIST THINKING has led me to realize that I am not less of a man than someone who is violent & has muscles. I am not less of a man for wanting to express feelings in a way that isn't rooted in anger or rage. I am not less of a man for wanting to be loved, to feel connected to someone, to be noticed just because I am myself.

honestly, that's what real feminism looks at / into. you could look into it.

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