Typically in a two parent household their choice is leave child with the other parent and return to work. Unforunatly I think men and women aren't considered equal parents yet.

It's interesting to me how much /u/ootmywindow is getting downvoted for stating something that to me is quite obvious and that you confirm - men would love to stay home with their kids more. Unfortunately though (U.S) society has pretty much made the decision for us, and I don't think a lot of women really appreciate that, as can be seen in these comments to /u/ootmywindow. And I'm sure I'll be downvoted for saying that.

When my daughter was born I remember asking about taking family leave so that I could help my wife with our older son and my boss asked "but who will do your work while you're off"? It was a very subtle way of saying no. I ended up going back to work 2 days after she was born, which sucked.

I do think this is an issue that currently affects new mothers more as they still the ones to take on the majority of child care, and leads to inequality in the workplace.

Right here you say that parents are not equal. /u/AAL314 basically says the same thing. I feel like most men are under no illusions of "having it all". We weren't raised to believe that we could have a great family life, a great career, and a lot of personal time.

I think it's a basic understanding, at least in the US, that the man has to make money and that means he has to focus on career and work. Otherwise he's labeled a deadbeat or a man child or a mooch or some other derogitory word. And likewise I think a lot of women who have a child want to focus on child care and bond with their baby for some period of time. Which is wonderful, I completely agree with that sentiment.

Honestly I don't know what I'm trying to really get at here. I'm just really irritated that ootmywindow is sitting at -20 points for stating that men have to make a choice to.