I think the main reason my dating life has been such a failure in the past is my difficulty in setting boundaries. For years I was a "cool girl" with ZERO boundaries. I have been able to forgive myself for it, but because of years of having no boundaries (because man pleaser), I am not well practiced in it. I am now good at setting sexual boundaries, but when it comes to other kinds of boundaries I really struggle because of my past conditioning. Sometimes I only realize until the next day that my boundaries were crossed so I need to have a separate convo then.... I wish I could call them out and react to them on the spot when they happen. I tend to just react by laughing (nervous defense response) so nobody can even tell that my boundaries got crossed. How do I change my immediate response and stop the stupid launching reaction?