3. I have been with two narcissists, one long term and another short term. I fear t...

I have been with two narcissists, one long term and another short term. I fear that I'll never be in a healthy relationship. Do you have any tips on how to recognize a healthy romantic dynamic?

Therapy. Honestly I was scared to death when I started dating my current boyfriend because I had just gotten out of the worst narc situation ever. But the biggest thing was that my boyfriend never gave me a horrible gut feeling like NEX did. I was always very uncomfortable around NEX because I was raised by a narcissistic person, so even at the very beginning when most narc traits hadn't manifested (at least to their full extent), I still had a feeling that something was off.

After you have had a narcissistic partner it is easier for you to recognize the signs that come with narcissism. If you don't feel like this is true for you there are amazing books and podcasts out there that talk about it. And having a therapist to help you navigate what you went through is truly a lifesaver. Narcissists target specific people with specific traits which is why some of us seem to attract them.

Long story short, educate yourself as much as you can. You might still come across narcissistic people in your life but next time it will be easier for you to get out as soon as possible. And if all else fails but somebody gives you a bad feeling, even if you don't fully understand why, RUN.

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