Being an attractive female makes it hard for me to get help, because people judge my outward appearance and don't believe I have any problems.

I am sitting here think how I could help, and yet your post describes a good part of me. You are an attractive women, but I kinda know what it feels like to be judged by looks. I am NO WHERE near as attractive as you; hell I am not even female, BUUUTTT I have been majorly overweight all my life, and on top of that I do believe that I'm on the spectrum as well. I never have been officially diagnosed, but there are a lot of things that if you knew me IRL you would agree. For starters 2 of my 4 children have been diagnosed. My other two I was not in there lives, and even though I want to be in their lives; I can not change the past.

Anyway when I say majorly over weight I am talking 5'4" at 315 when I was in high school. People would think I couldn't do this, or that; that I couldn't run, but I was able to, and quickly to boot. I would always get the WOWs after they seen me run. I gotten bullied at school. No friends. I mean I had a person, or 2 that would walk with me in the halls, but that was about it, and generally that all ended if I went over their house. They didn't want to hang out anymore.

Here are somethings that I have used to help me. Don't give a flying F of what anyone thinks. People who judge by looks are shallow anyway. I have stopped trying to fit in. If I find something comfortable I will wear the hell out of it. If some doesn't like it; well they can take a hike. And on the thing of fitting in something I have noticed as of late. NT's try so very hard to be individuals, but thrive to be liked, and in social gatherings that they conform to what their peers think. As to ASD people we are individuals naturally, but strive to conform in a NT's world.

Anyway(I have a bad habit of just going from this story to that when I think it's all relevant to what I am talking about) I have found online video game chatting gives me my social outlet. When chatting online to someone playing a game looks never get involved. You have a common interest in the game your playing, and it takes a lot of the stress out of it. Not that it's not awkward at time, but the awkwardness is greatly reduced in this setting. For me anyway. I am not sure if this would help,but I did this once on here, and him,and I became decent text pals. Anyway I offer you a safe haven, and if you need to chat you are always welcome to PM me. A friendly ear so to speak.

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