If there's one good thing porn should teach everyone about their own self image it's this, "No matter how ugly or undesirable you think you are, you are someone's fetish."

Sure, you're not conventionally attractive, you're never going to be a runway model. But there is someone out there who would take one look at you and think "Hot damn! I need to see that naked!"

And no, that person doesn't have to be conventionally ugly either.

I'm a pretty good lookin' dude. I'm financially stable, emotionally supportive. I'm a catch by every metric I know of. (This isn't to brag)

My ex GF, is not conventionally attractive. She's cross eyed, asymmetrical and flat chest, has a small hump even. But I liked her from the first moment I saw her. Things didn't work out, and we split up. She hooked up with another guy whose definitely more of a catch than me. Dude's better looking, in better shape, just a reliable, is supportive etc.

From someone's perspective on the outside looking in she looks like she went from one out of her league guy to a dude a league further up. Heck, I've heard as much from people who know us.

Looks aren't everything, and honestly those negatives never really registered with me. I saw them, I'm not blind. But they never turned me off from her.

So yeah, be "ugly." Just know that to the people who love you, it won't matter.