I have the same problem and I always go for option 2.

I haven’t been with that many people because of it I think. I’ve only had long term relationships and one fling. I always wait until there’s a real connection and/or we are somewhat of an item, like bf/gf. Since by that point 1. he’ll be super excited we’re finally doing it and 2. he’ll feel some type of attachment towards me already by this point. So then the look of my body is not necessarily a top 5 priority. With my first bf of 10 years I did see he was a bit something, not surprised, but also not what he expected. It made sense since we were 20 at the time and my skin should have been tighter. With the fling I think he also imagined me different, but he didn’t care and I noticed he immediately got over it. With my next LTR I just didn’t give him a chance to even take notice of it. Something I did when we were finally seeing each other naked I didn’t look down, I didn’t look down at my body, I didn’t look away, I looked at him. I looked at his eyes, his hair, his lips, while touching his arms, holding his hands and so in a way I was encouraging him to do the same with me rather than to focus on our bodies. And, I also didn’t want to give the impression that I’m insecure about my body and then inevitably feel insecure in that moment and ruin the mood. I get in the zone and I don’t consider any of my flaws at that point. I’m sure at some point after we were done he did think, “Hmmmm not quite what I expected.” But, I honestly think he got over it because we kept the relationship going.

To give you a bit of insight into how I look, I dress according to my shape (rectangle, think Cameron Diaz but not super fit, much more soft). I’m always stylish though. I’m 5’8, about 135lbs so I like to elongate my legs with specific dresses. I like to wear a lot of short ruffled dresses that cinch my waist, but not too short that I show too much thigh since they’re not very toned. I can’t wear any type of shorts for this reason. I like to show off my neckline as well, but don’t wear sleeveless tops unless they have some type of ruffle detail since my upper arms aren’t very toned and I have a lot of stretch marks by my under arms, in the front and back. I also have stretch marks throughout my lower back, lower abdomen, sides, on my breasts, so no bathing suits for me. Everything else I wear is always well fitting and nice quality. So, I give the impression that I’m pretty fit and somewhat toned. However, I too don’t have the best stomach since I was a fat pre-teen and my stomach didn’t recover well. I’m between an A and a B cup.