Being emotionally distant to the one you like

No but why do i need to when we're just friends. He can always reach out in the future. I also catch up with friends once every few months or years. The opportunity is still there but he's no longer a priority just like i am not a priority to him right now.

I feel like if i was to try one more time to confirm if he wants to go or not, that it might sort it out or it might be overkill. So far the advice from friends has been to leave it more than it has been to hash it out with him.

I've already reached out three times so far for this movie that he's also interested in. I would think that if he was more interested then he would have tried harder or mentioned an alternative date or got back to me. And that any more effort on my part would be nauseatingly too much if he isnt that interested. I know how it feels when people like me when i dont like them. I dont want to make someone feel that way about me. I have better things to do. Also he's made me feel so irritated with the chaos he's done to my schedule. The pattern is pretty consistent.

I mean this in the most understanding of ways: He's got a lot on his plate to care about another human being right now. I know his decisions are calculated and made rationally and logically for him.

There is no us and i've been stupid for even giving him that consideration and time. He's been regulated to friend with no special priorities as he so wished. I mean that in the most PG (parental guidance) rating of ways btw.

I am so irritated, sorry if it's coming out in my writing.

I am just going to go watch this movie on my own. I've been looking forward to it for two weeks but he's stalled for two weeks. I heard it's really good. Choc top with movie, tonnes of space beside me... mmm cant complain.

A little part of me wants to try and ask him one more time, but i am like 'far out'. It's been many tries already. I am done. I dont wish my enjoyment of this movie to be tainted by another bad experience.

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