Being in a ldr :)

Well my first one was a local girl who was living in UK (Im in LK(Sri Lanka)) and after 6 months ,she told me that her parents had set her up to get engaged within 2 weeks and she didn't even know about it~ I just took her word for it, she disappeared and appeared randomly whenever she could and talked to me~ I waited for her for 6 years hoping something would change..But nothing. She went away finally ~


Second one , she was in US (FL), we met through a mutual friend ~ She was in an abusive relationship so i took it upon my self to be there for her and all that which lead us to being together~ Her parents were abusive and always invaded her privacy so we couldnt talk that much ~ But i still kept sending her "Good morning / Night texts" every day ~ but whatever i did , she saw something wrong in it ~ Like since we have a huge timezone difference i had to wait all night till morning , awake just to say hi or not to talk at all~ I'd wait sleepless until 9-10AM in the morning just so she could come online and "Type" Good night and go off~ but there were some days that if i send a text saying either i would get " Why would you do that ? I told you not to text me" etc ~ I Couldn't call her , I couldn't text her whenever i wanted but within all that i kept hoping that she'd see how much i want to be with her but all i got in return was that~ Though there were good days ~

To put in to perspective , we were playing an online game and the server was lagging and her connection was failing which was making her rage ~ So i told her exactly " Hun, Your connection is laggy so is the server,we'll play tomorrow or something when everything is okay because i can see all this is making you uncomfortable. We'll hang out today"

Disconnected - End Call - Went offline - Didnt talk with me for 3 days and she was blaming me for suggesting something that would ease her up~

I was on facebook and saw her online while she was in a class session ~ I am a person who value education because i come from a poor family, so i told her "What are you doing online, do your classwork"

After few weeks she pulled that up incident and called me a "Stalker" ~

I still loved her even after all this .I didn't pressure her or ask for anything because i understood how/what she had to go through because of her parents~

Near to the end , she told me that her brothers were coming to stay indefinitely so she would not be able to come online that much ~ So everyday i waited until 9-10AM without sleep to see if she comes online ~ She did randomly but if i say " Hi/hey" she would reply " Oh Dont fucking start" like as if i was going to fight ? with her ~ Gradually she stopped responding and she even deactivated/blocked me on facebook ~ But i waited for 8 months hoping she would talk to me before i sent her this as the final email ~ (I was pretty upset when i typed it)

I honestly dont know what went wrong or what happened, All i've ever asked from her is that she text me atleast once a week where i would stay all day sleepless so i could say goodnight. So if you ask me Why ? I have no answer for it ~ I have every incident as screenshots just so i can re-read them and try to figure out what went wrong

Ever since that I've been single / used / left? and all that ( There is one more incident but not LDR ) ~

Right now in love with a person who cant see how much i love/care about them ~ Hope. Which is all i've got.

Hope it answeres your question, if not ask me whichever~ Im quite an open person

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