My dad is like this.
He had a big probleme (in my eyes at leadt) with yelling, getting easily angry, and comparing me heavily with my brother. I understand that anger builds up over time, but whenever I get in trouble or goes something like this:
He call me ungrateful, dumb, entitled, crazy, disgusting, entitled, a brat, a baby, and much much more. This gets much worse if I start crying, in wich case he'll say I'm just doing it to manipulate him and "do you think I'm fu**ing dumb".
He yells at me very loudly, in front of friends, family, and strangers. I remember one of the worst times was when he screamed at me in the mall for not wearing a bra under a jumbo sized hoodie. I was 9.
He takes away my phone (I'm 17, turning 18 soon) for days/weeks on end, but then gets angry when I am unable to text or call him back.
He demanded I let him look through my phone (texts, emails, search history, and message chains with my friends that go months back) because he thinks I'm hiding something from him. This is how he found out I was gay, and then yelled that I was hiding that from him too.
He relentlessly compares me to my brother, mentioning how he is so much better at whatever I'm doing wrong.
He says that he "can see strait through me" and that "we're exactly the same" while stating things that are completely wrong, wich he assumes is what I'm thinking/the reason I'm doing something. He yells if I say he's wrong, and tells me I'm lying to him.
Says he knows me better than I know myself, which is his excuse for not believing me when he thinks I'm lying.
I tried talking to him about it once, said that him constantly comparing me to my brother was making me resent my twin, said that his constant yelling and putting me down was destroying mental health (which it was) told him that when I cry, it's because he's a big intimidating person screaming at me, not because I'm manipulating him.
He refused to belive any of it and said I was just exaggerating and manipulating him once again. He yelled a lot that time, and I haven't brought it up since.
I hate that I know so many people who go through things like this, and things that are so much worse. No one deserves to have shitty parents, but you can't really escape them, even if you haven't talked to them in years.
(And before you reply saying something about how I should just move out or whatever, my dad is a really good guy in every other aspect, its just some things that he doesn't understand affect me as much as they do)