Do being single bother you at all?

I've had the opposite experience. I didn't get to know what it was like to be single until I was an adult. I was in a horrible relationship with an older man from the time I was 14 to 21, and I finally was able to get out after years of trying to leave this guy.

Being single was the greatest thing that had ever happened to me. I could do whatever I wanted, have friends, hang out with people, or go out on my own, wear what I wanted... anything. I graduated nursing school shortly after I left him and as a treat to myself, I hopped on a train and went all around the country exploring and trying new things and got everything out of my system that I wanted to do that I never got to while I was in that relationship. Not to be melodramatic, but I kind of felt like I was freed from a 7-year prison sentence, hah.

Eventually I ran out of money and I came home and started my career, and since then I've been living in my own apartment (which is also amazing) and it's been about 2 years since I got out. Next month I'm moving in with my best friend in the entire world, and he doesn't have a cruel bone in his entire body. As much as I've loved being single, and sometimes I think I'm crazy for giving it up, I think it'll be nice to have a proper relationship with someone that I actually like.

I guess what I'm getting at is that being single is nothing to be embarrassed about or taken for granted. Enjoy your freedom. You're still young and the world is your oyster. I'm only a year older than you, so I suppose that may not mean much coming from me, hah. However, you have the opportunity to do it right the first time around. Be selective. Don't settle. Really get to know who they are as a human being before you commit. Find someone that will love you flaws and all, and return the favor. Even if you don't get it right the first time, learn from it. You'll learn about yourself, even.

TL;DR - Take chances, make mistakes, get messy!

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