Being stuck somewhere you don’t want to live and worried about parents

Well I'm [30M] in a similar situation to that which you fear. My dad left my mum a few years back and she couldn't afford to keep our family home herself. But selling and moving her elsewhere just did not feel like an option for a number of reasons, and I couldn't afford her mortgage on top of my rent. So I left London (where I continue to work) and moved back home to this small town 50 miles away to live with my mum.

I do feel trapped. Right now I can't move without effectively forcing my mum out of her home. In about 5 years I will have paid off what remains of her mortgage so that will free me up somewhat, but that only raises new issues: she depends on me for company, to drive her to places, etc, plus she's getting old now. I don't know if I'll ever be able to leave and abandon her.

So my future looks pretty shit right now. I just take solace in the fact that we'll all be dead fairly soon.

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