Beliefs that need to be resolved

"In order to have confidence/courage I have to be good in something (I don't know what I'm good at)"

Firstly, your friend isn't wrong. Confidence comes from being good at something and having self-worth. So what do you do? Find a hobby or take classes in something that you can use for the rest of your life. An example is working out, martial arts, learning a language or learning a new instrument. And get good at it. If anything, just work out. There are so many benefits to it, including confidence and looking ripped. Personally, I go to the gym and take martial arts. I can also sing, but that's just something I do in the car than for actual legit reasons (nothing on stage or whatnot). I've had a couple dates compliment me on my singing when I drive them around to wherever. And it's awesome.

"I will scare the girls if I touch them"

That comes from your insecurity. Insecurity comes from low self-worth. Your friend doesn't respect himself. And why doesn't he respect himself? He's a loser. Sorry, but it's the truth. Only losers to that. But how do you become a 'winner'? Start developing yourself physically, socially, mentally and financially. You will gain a sense of self-worth and self-respect once you know you are successful. Success creates confidence. Confidence rids yourself of insecurity.

Girls are only scared of losers that touch them. Not winners.

"They have to like me as I am"

I have so many gripes about this statement. Firstly, saying this is the acceptance of the mediocre. NEVER accept the mediocre. As a man, you must ALWAYS improve yourself. Women only like men who are not lazy. Get good habits, develop yourself, and the women will follow.

"I don't know how to be funny"

Sorry bud, but this is something you have to experience for yourself. No one can really teach you to be funny. You have to learn the social cues: Know when to shut the fuck up, when to talk, and when to listen.

I've seen guys say the most stupidest shit and still get girls. How? Because their body language and vocal tonality shows confidence.

You can't make a half-ass joke otherwise you just look like a fucking creep. Don't make jokes and then 'take it back'. For example:

[You're in a set of 5 people and your target interrupts your story]

"Wow, didn't you learn to raise your hand before talking in grade school?"

After you say something like that, don't say "Oh sorry! It was a joke!" You just fucking killed all attraction. Taking shit back shows insecurity. It shows you didn't commit to it and are afraid of insulting the girl (essentially pedestalizing her).

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