I'm an older, non-trad student. From a place of kindness, I would advise you to reconsider the language you used. It is scary and unsafe towards women. As you are coming into a new culture, I can imagine it is hard to adapt and Reddit and media outlets do not give you a balanced view on how to interact with potential partners. I would hope you would work on viewing your date/partner with the realization that everyone is human and deserves basic respect.

The language you are using violates that. Treat your date with the kindness that you are hoping to receive and explain what you are looking for. Lots of people are focused on their studies and don't have time for a relationship. A hook up is just what they want. That does not negate that they want to feel safe. Just be nice and back faaaaar away from all incel talk. It is a gross, minor area of our culture. Please, don't be mad or get jaded by others who are filled with hate. Reach out and connect and realize there are friendships and relationships awaiting you, but not if you continue down this path.

I wish you the best of luck making the right choice, and as a women want you to know that it is disconcerting hearing that language used at a campus I hope to feel safe on. Take care.