Growing up I was always told that if a guy liked you, he’d be aggressive and up front about his feelings. So the male friendships I had I always assumed were never going to amount to anything more than platonic.

I’ve been really close friends with a guy for about a year, and I didn’t have any attraction towards him in the beginning. Somewhere down the line, though, I caught feelings for him. We work together, talk almost everyday outside of work, and hang out regularly. It sucks because we’re both single and not talking to anyone else, so the possibility of us being together gets stuck in my head a lot.

I’m not planning on saying anything though because I don’t want to deal with the awkwardness of being rejected, and I value our friendship too much.