How are they ignoring their partner's needs by asking if their partner came? That also doesn't mean they are acting like a sad puppy. It could be they are just awkward and nervous like a normal human.

Be honest and say, no. That is why they are asking. From there hopefully they do offer. I have known women who scream when they orgasm and women who just silently shake. Sometimes its hard to tell if they have or haven't cause everyone does it differently. Especially if its a first time experience between the couple.

I mean look at the tweet. He is basically awkwardly asking if she came and if she didn't he maybe open to help get off in some other way. With a title like, after 45 seconds I came to the wrong house, people here are wondering why guys get nervous about being able to perform.