I had to consult with my girlfriend on this one because my jaw kind of dropped reading this and I needed to be sure I'm not crazy before responding. So this message is from two people.

We're reeling at the idea you both chose to keep the baby but weren't wrapping your heads around the reality of what that obligates you both to do.

You don't get to willingly bring a new life on to this earth and then prioritize "taking it slow" over the child's needs. That baby should be EVERYTHING to you both. Even if it means you're not madly in love but still need to share a bed.

I'm flabbergasted you'd even consider two freaking cribs in the same house just because you don't want to share a bed with the man you created human life with. Give the baby it's own damn room. You must be kidding me?

You've got to get your priorities in order. Both of you. That little baby didn't get to choose you both as parents, so you're obligated to make that baby's well being the center of everything you both do. You don't get to choose you first anymore.

Again, you chose to have a baby together. You don't get to take it slow anymore. It's literally not a choice you have.