Bf not interested in sex with me

I've been with my partner for 10 yrs and we had a long stretch where we had sex very infrequently.

A couple things I noticed about that time:

1- it had nothing to do with her. I was being selfish and watching too much porn which, over time, lowered my desire to have sex with my gf.

2- because of #1, my confidence in the bedroom went down. I felt like I wasn't any good at sex and if I didn't blow her mind, it was a bad thing. I failed to realize that sex doesn't always have to be this huge, earth-shattering hour long event. Just being intimate with your partner in any way is really healthy.

3- I hope this isn't the case for you, but no matter what my gf did to try to revive our sex life, it was ultimately up to me to get it back to a healthy point. I had to come to terms with all the BS in my mind and just man up and do what was best for her.

Ultimately my advice would be to gently let him know you know about the cam girl thing. Ask him if he could stop looking at that for a while. Maybe one day have a shower with him or something and see if his libido is back. Obviously you can go your own way about this, that was just some random example.

Good luck.

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