I don't want to marry a man and hold resentment when he's showing how he perceives marriage. There were men who wanted me to work full-time hours, financially contribute to their parent's house because they had no plans of moving out, take care of the household (the stereotypical housewife role), take care of in-laws and future kids. I asked the same regarding their contribution to household chores, but they laughed it off. There is no balance. He gets all the benefits of a marriage while not fulfilling any of mine. And that's selfish.

Another was a sweet talker. After months of talking, this man had a huge debt and was hoping I would pay majority of the wedding (although we tried keeping it simple as possible by keeping it at a community centre), pay for the housing after marriage, help pay for his debt, while asking if I could keep the mahr less than a thousand. I was his bank..

I'm sure there were 2-3 proposals where I was selfish to say no because I wasn't attracted to them. Do I regret it? No, and I pray the goodness for them.