Any update to your story ? Im going through this right now. My bipolar ex left me for the second time in less than a year. We’ve been together for 3 years and i had plans to marry her, buy a home, kids etc. My recent 2nd breakup was the worse. One month ago we had a heated argument when she came home drunk one night she was out with friends. She was completely intoxicated and i said something that triggered her. She exploded and turned violent on me. I almost called the cops but she stopped and fled the scene. Her sister picked her up and took her home that night. Next day i went to work and when i returned to my apt, it was completely empty. My ex took everything except for my clothes. She moved out just like that. No letter , no civil conversation, nothing. She left me tied down to a apartment lease i cant afford by myself . I had to move back home .
Its been a month and still not heard from her. She blocked me on every form of communication. The first time she left me, i was so heartbroken. Her last episode lasted 4 months. At that time i thought it was my fault so i pursued her, chased and got her back just in time before she planned a 4 day trip with a random dude she met online !!! Smh . And Just days before our fight a month ago she said she loved me so much and how happy she was in the relationship etc etc she would never leave me again etc she made a huge mistake for breaking up with me the first time etc etc.
After reading up on bipolar disorder, i understand her behavior now. Im convinced she is bipolar. We never got the chance to talk about her illness. She did let me know from the beginning that she suffered from chronic depression and anxiety. if i knew then what i know now, i would have tried to get her help and set boundaries. She was un diagnosed and , self medicated with alcohol.
After doing research and reading a ton of stories online from people with BP partners, my hopes have faded pretty quickly. The divorce rate is over 90% for marriages involving a person who has bipolar disorder. I dont know how long her manic episode will last this time. Her behavior is so unpredictable .
Im moving on with or without closure. Im going no contact this time around. I still love her and care for her so dearly. She was my best friend. I saved just enough to buy her an engagement too and had plans to propose to her in the next months. Its devastating. But i cant wait for her anymore. There is no trust. Im really lost for words. I hope she is okay.