I’m attracted to trans or cis, binary people with normative gender presentation. I stick with “queer”. I feel like bi has is often used in a way that is exclusionary to genderqueer/non-binary people, i.e. it’s not a pick two system, but even weirder to me is that it’s often exclusionary to normative gender presentations for trans people. Transmen are men, transwomen are women. Whereas, pan is sometimes used in a way that otherizes and fetishizes people who don’t have normative gender presentations while invalidating trans people who do, because it seems like you’re buying into the argument for why bisexual should be trans excluding. Queer to me just says,” I am not straight.”