The Blue Pill, Spherical Cows, and Ayn Rand

The mental processes of women who have casual sex is one of my obsessions, and I've discussed this in depth with both men and women online, including on this sub.

The consensus is that a large majority of these women are unable to estimate accurately how attractive they are, so they have casual sex in the hopes that it'll turn into a relationship, and are often heart-broken as a result.

This is a long story, and worth reading in full, but here are two choice quotes. Note that he didn't lead her on, and told her from the get go that it was a FWB relationship, and not a full romantic relationship.

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/3l1z47/update_3_23m_decided_to_break_things_off_with_my/

This is when she got really angry at me and started launching accusations at me. I tried to hush her down and keep her calm since we were in a public place with many people and lots of people were staring, but she just got angrier and louder. She started asking me about what do I see in her (the girlfriend), then asking me about why she herself wasn't good enough for me. She started demanding to know why she wasn't good enough, and what this new girl had that she didn't have. She started yelling at me through tears about how I never cared for her or loved her, how I just used her for sex and threw her away when I was done, how I lead her on. She started calling herself an idiot for ever loving someone like me, and said this, which really cut me deep "you know the stupidest part of all of this, is I hate myself so fucking much because I still have feelings for you after all you've done to me." After swearing and accusing me of all sorts of things, like how I had used her for sex and lead her on, she turned on herself, and started calling herself an idiot, worthless, unloveable, all sorts of words. It was really sad to watch and I felt terrible for her, even though she was making this huge scene and embarassing the both of us in front of everyone. She stormed off crying, and I looked around, suddenly everyone started walking around again and looking away pretending like nothing had happened.

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/3gu1n5/i_23m_decided_to_break_things_off_with_my_fwb_23f/

I recently invited her over to my place for a talk. I told her I think its time we put an end to our arrangement, and while its been good fun, I think its time to end it. She seemed shocked, it came out of the blue to her. She asked why, I told her I had personal reasons, but she kept pressing so I told her the reason was that I've been sort of seeing someone, and that I'm planning on becoming exclusive with her and start dating her. She started pressing me about her, asking me more and more about her. What she looked like, what her personality was like, how I met her. I told her she was just some girl from my university. I could tell she was becoming slightly upset at this point. And then she started crying, she asked me why I was pursuing a relationship with someone else when I had always said I wasn't interested in a relationship. She said I was cruel because I had always led her to believe that I'm not interested in relationships, but she feels that I'm just not interested in a relationship with her. She called me an asshole for crushing her hopes so callously. I didn't even know what she meant for sure, but at this point in the conversation I'm starting to strongly suspect she had feelings for me and she was sticking in the FWB in the hopes one day I'd be ready for a committed relationship. I had always told her I wasn't interested in one, so I can see why she's upset now that I suddenly am interested in one, but with someone else, not her.

This Modern Love essay went viral. It's the same story. I saw the FB comment thread on the NYTimes page. "Everyone has their Jeremy," one woman wrote.

If you follow Carter Cruise or Sovereign Syre or other porn stars on Twitter, you'll see that they too want love and respect.

Contrary to what people will tell you, just as there are tons of people who would never date a sex worker, there are also plenty of people in prestigious occupations with designer educations that would LOVE to marry a porn star.

http://therationalmale.com/2011/12/08/chasing-amy/

Your sweet little virgin wants to fuck, and your whore still wants to be a soccer mom.

Bobbi Starr is married and has a kid. I had one person on PPD IRC say that she's riding the carousel now and intends to ride as long as possible, into her 40s, but that never happens. They hit 30, their friends marry, their back starts to ache, their metabolism drops, they feel the grim reaper's touch, and they want to get married.

Men are capable of living off ideas and sex alone; women need romance, stability, a family.

https://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Camille_Paglia

The fact is, you get great art only from mutilated egos. Only mutilated egos are obsessive enough. When I entered graduate school in 1968, 1 thought women were going to have all these enormous achievements, that they would redo everything. Then I saw every one of my female friends — these great minds who were going to transform the world — get married, move because their husbands moved and have babies. I screamed at them: What are you doing? Finish your great book! But they all read me the riot act. They said, "Camille, we are not you." They said, "We want life. We want love. We want happiness. We are not happy — like you are — just living off ideas." I am weird.

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