Boyfriend (29) and me (24) don't agree on whether it's ok to hang out alone with certain people

I still think it isn't the same situation, so why do we treat it the same way? And I do get it is a double standard in the feelings way... but I still do not agree it is exactly the same and should not be treated so.

Everyone seems to think I don't compromise at all. I have cut off people for him because he was uncomfortable. I do not hang out with males I have just met alone, while I used to do this in a platonic way before we were in a relationship. The only reason we even had this discussion is because I asked him if it would be ok if I happened to be alone with this male friend, if no one else in the group chat replied.

He said no at first, but then agreed it is ok if he can do the same with his ex.

Boundaries are tricky- when is it controlling? When is it something reasonable to ask? This is where we, or I, struggle, I guess.

He was not ok with me hanging out with my friend at first and I didn't, and I wasn't ok with him even talking to his ex at the very beginning. We compromised that he could still talk to her because I felt bad being the reason if they stopped being friends, even if them talking made me uncomfortable.

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