I don't want to overstep here, but if I may. It doesn't appear that YOUR weight has anything to do with HIS problem. It sounds like it is just an excuse or a manipulation. Fortunately or unfortunately, everyone has different things they are attracted to. I, for one, am not attracted to extremely skinny women; I prefer a more voluptuous lady, always have. Withholding sex due to not liking your SO's body image is extremely manipulative, in my opinion.

If you're not currently happy with your weight, then I wish you all the best in achieving whatever goal you set for your self. BUT, don't do it for someone else who doesn't appreciate it. Do it for yourself....for your health, for your happiness, and for your own self esteem. I don't know you, but I suspect that you look great.

Earlier you said you husband uses Cialis for a bladder issue. Apparently that is one use for it (thanks Google). A couple of questions: 1) were you aware of him using it for this purpose prior to finding it? 2) Does he use it at home or just when traveling?

By the way, Happy Valentine's Day from someone that wishes you the happiness and peace you deserve.