Boyfriend says feels he needs to ask permission

I know it stems off of his fathers passing.. he would’ve never acted like this with me before and it’s absolutely sad it’s like watching someone have a midlife crisis. I love him a lot and I want to stick around and be patient but I also want to be kind to myself. I worry that him being so comfortable saying these hurtful things to me that I always tell him hurt me if he’s so comfortable now what is our future. He would not go through therapy he doesn’t believe in medical help for anxiety or depression. I don’t know what the answer is here it’s like I feel like I tell myself keep holding on til I fall out of love of can’t take it anymore because I don’t feel strong enough to leave him because I love him

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