boyfriend has social anxiety and opts out of social events. I feel bad going without him. advice?

Good questions, but hopefully you haven’t already decided you know the whole situation. I’m in therapy for my mental illness(es). Have been since long before I met my fiancée. She threatens suicide every so often and has wandered off before with the intent of finding a way to kill herself. This is how seriously her anxiety affects her. There was a point before we got engaged that I broke up with her for numerous, numerous reasons, and when she seemed to want to change some things that were completely unhealthy for her and those around her, as well as the fact she finally got signed up for therapy, I asked her to come back to me. Almost a year later, she still has made no friends and is apparently too picky about people to connect with any of the loving and genuine folks that I have in my life. She started a new job with about 36-45 hours per week (similar to before), and I have been doing 90% of the housework and cooking since that began. I’m not her care provider. She wants to BE a therapist herself She SHOULD be in therapy if she hopes to heal others. I’m sorry but, you really did not understand what you were saying. It’s unfortunate that some men gaslight their partners into getting therapy, but that is not what’s going on here. Thanks for weighing in.

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