Boyfriend wants me to change my name when we get married. I don’t want to. He says it’s a dealbreaker. Help?

Calling someone dumb for having a differing opinion than you, very mature. Not much point in OP even having this discussion in an echo chamber where everyone tells her to break up instantly is there?

And it's not exactly antiquated if around 80-90 per cent of couples still keep the paternal name. How many generations can you keep double-barrelling surnames before it gets ridiculous? Until we all have 7 hyphens in our name in 100 years' time? The crux is that they both want their own way but can't seem to find a compromise; one of them seems to be doing it for tradition and family togetherness reasons, to create a family unit etc., due to their own parents' divorce, and the other just beacuse they like their last name.

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