You're knocking down arguments I never made, based on positions I don't hold. I never once described DBT as a magic silver bullet, merely the gold standard treatment for BPD, which it indisputably is. Of course, no mental health therapy is uniformly effective, especially not for a complex mental health diagnosis like BPD.

Nor did I say "just do DBT and meditate, you'll be fine." I only told OP that by engaging in DBT and fostering a meditation practice, s/he was doing good work to take care of his/her BPD symptoms and that s/he deserved to be in a loving and supportive relationship. Nothing about my statement implied that OP should take his/her mental health lightly or be cavalier about his/her relationship. I'm not sure why you find what I wrote controversial. It was an entirely reasonable and supportive thing to say. The only thing inappropriate here is your apparent assumption that OP cannot be in a successful interpersonal relationship based solely on OP's diagnosis.

Finally, I am intimately familiar with the DBT protocol. I took over two years of it, myself, both individual and group, as well as the DBT Prolonged Exposure therapy. I got to know and work with a number of individuals with BPD, and thus I am capable of seeing past the stigma. I, myself, am an attorney who has practiced in state and federal trial and appellate courts, including the Ninth Circuit Court of Appeals and the United States Supreme Court. I have also been in a committed and stable relationship for 10 years. My wife has also done two years of DBT and she is a succesful physician.

I don't know what personal experience you have with BPD that makes you take such a dim view of people with the diagnosis, but your criticisms are misguided, out of date, and contribute to the ongoing unfair stigmatization of a patient population that has already put up with more than enough.