I'm going through this exact thing right now. Except I'm the SO. I know this fight wouldn't have happened if his symptoms didn't interfere. At the time I was hurt by something (that normally I could have let go but I'm so fried from weeks of his symptoms and supporting), then he reacted to my hurt by pulling away and getting down/mopey, so I felt more distanced, now he's mad at that I ignored him. ?? And now he's pissed and saying mean things. So bad fight. So basically I feel rejected for having feelings in the first place, which sucks because I try like hell to understand his feeling and mania and depression for years. I can try to understand everything and really really I can see its the symptoms not him, and I want to put it behind us BUT I need him to acknowledge that I had feelings too, not just get so caught up in his own.

So please go your so. Just listen for 5 min. Let them voice for a min. Then explain you get overwhelmed and maybe didn't have the best reactions. But you love them and want to put this behind y'all.