Don’t be afraid of self harm. That’s how they think they trap you. What they do to themselves is not your fault. Especially when your really trying to help them, and trying continuously to love them no matter what. Don’t fall. From what I’ve read your extremely shy, and also like me suffer from anxiety. I was forced basically into rage and suffering. Don’t be like me. End it with the most detailed explanation for the “why” and try to keep your wits about you. Some, not all obviously, will definitely try to keep you in the mentality that things can change. Until you start noticing things that resemble wprettyhat you really don’t like about them.

Change is crucial. You either tell them you don’t like how it is, or you keep going until that fault arises.

In your case, if you know she’s gonna self harm, call the police and have them there while you break up with her. That’s extreme, but you may have saved a life.