So, I feel like this isn’t necessarily a fair statement. I’ve, unfortunately, been a man in a similar situation to the one in the video. Prior to that situation, I had never really experienced personality disorders before. As a male, how do you deal with someone you care about irrationally screaming at you, striking you, and preventing you from leaving a situation (standing in front of doorways, following you)? In my situation, I guess what “triggered” it was my friend had made fun of her earlier that day. The comment seemed mean and I responded by contradicting what he said (Something along the lines of “Actually…”). That apparently wasn’t a good enough response. When we got home, I was a 190 lb man being struck by a 90 lb woman. What did I do? I ended up on the ground, in a corner, covering my head because I knew I couldn’t respond physically. I tried to call my friends and family, and the phone was hit out of hand. When I was finally able to leave, I was exhausted and devastated, I couldn’t even really comprehend what happened to me.

Physically, I had a busted lip and scratch marks. Emotionally, it was a life changing moment for me. The whole situation played out with me leaving after about 2 hours of this, her calling me and threatening her own life, me calling 911 to report the possibility of danger for her, and police arresting her for DV. The police told me I did the right thing and that I was right not to respond physically because if I had, I’d be the the one going to jail. I pleaded with them not to arrest her, but they did anyway. I remember crying outside and collapsing after the cruiser took her away. I thought I was getting her help and possibly preventing self-harm, but it ended in this. She was then restricted from being around me or contacting me, for at least a week. I got a lot of counseling after this and every professional visit and forum tells you to leave the situation immediately.

After all this, she verbalized some deep feelings of a desire for retribution because “I sent her to jail” for 3 days. This came a few months after this all concluded. She even stated she would feign victimhood if I ever “called the police again”. So, while I’m not convinced this guy is innocent, I can’t help but rule out the possibility that he may have left to get out of a bad situation and that he felt he needed legal advice in dealing with someone with a personality disorder.