When I was in my early 20s I was in an abusive relationship with a man who, among other things, threatened to send videos of me having sex (which by the way he filmed without my knowledge) to my friends, family and employer if I ever left him. This is before there were laws about revenge porn. I was terrified of this man. He had the great talent of seeming totally normal on the outside, with good looks and a good job, but completely evil in private. When I got pregnant, I knew that having a baby with this man would keep me and the child imprisoned in a life of abuse.
When pro-lifers say “if the mother’s life is at risk” they mean a medical emergency. But what about for women like me? I never saw myself as someone who would get an abortion, but when pushed up against the wall, in the situation I was in, I am grateful I had that choice. I secretly got the abortion (by far the most painful and traumatic experience of my life that took years to emotionally heal from) and left him. For he next five years I dealt with him stalking me online and threatening me with suicide and revenge porn. He acquired several guns and without explicitly threatening me, he made me aware of their existence. To this day I can’t have LinkedIn or anything like that because I am afraid he will find me. I know I did the right thing.