Business Heart-Ache - Lack of confidence - In serious need of suggestions

Jealousy is a fiery vice, pertaining to a compulsive will-power in the form of possessiveness and competition. Hence, the cultivation of a wet virtue pertaining to detachment is the way to go. To give someone your trust, is to give them freedom from the gravity of the mind. Now, trust is an airy quality, a funny mixture of the dry intellect and the wet intution - while your intuition seems to trust her, your intellect don't.

You have two ways to go about this, the way I see it. The first option is to make the trust pertaining solely to the intuition, so it becomes a completely watery virtue, where the intellect has nothing say.

The second option is to equilibrate the dry intellect, by keeping your will power in check - simply said, do not project your fantasies upon other people, cutting the ties from the artificial marionette dolls of a hazy dream stage.

The third obligatory option is to consider whether your intellectual mistrust towards this girl holds any significance, since your intuition could easily be under the swaying aphrodisiac of affection. It is in times like these when it's nice to have your wits about you.

Unless you are truly detached and rest in the inner chamber of gold, trust is a gamble that could prove to be quite expensive - especially if you throw your happiness outwards and go all in on chaotic surroundings you cannot possibly control, such as other people.

If you believe this girl does not have the necessary self-control of her sexual appetite to keep a commitment between the two of you, then it would be pretty foolish to place your trust in such a character.

Pardon me for saying so, but I do believe there is a difference between fucking and making love, just as there is a difference between affection and love, the former which can easily be a product of; cultural conditioning, fear of being alone, a desire for increase in social status, sexual instinct etc. Perhaps you're just fucking, and not making love, if you know what I'm saying.

I'm not big on mixing magic with business, so I can't really help you that front. I suppose being a strong character that sincerely shines through is the best form of promotion, and as such, I would prioritize what relevant vices to pick and how to transform these into their opposing virtues.

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