Yes it kinda is. I’m sorry but there is almost no way to tell someone you desire more intimacy and them not wanting it negatively impacts your mental healthy and body image without it feeling like crazy pressure for the other partner. For some, they understand but realistically the only solution would be to have sex when they don’t want to have sex…which isn’t a good solution. It’s possible that those in the asexual spectrum might have a better insight into this, but maybe high libido partners are usually suffering being with a low libido partner. Also many high libido partner can start to feel resentful after years of “pity” sex.

Yes there might be understanding in the beginning but for how long, months, 5 years, 10 years. I wish the importance of sexual compatibility was taught in school.