Can you guys share your cps stories?

I had 6 CPS visits in a year, for all sorts of reasons, most of which were ridiculous ("We're here cause we heard you and your husband are in marriage counseling" lol). Each time they were at my door, I was confused and stressed because they're there thinking you did something wrong and trying to figure out whether or not you did - sort of guilty until proven innocent. But if there isn't anything actually wrong, or they don't find anything (which with that many visits to my house, if there was something wrong they would have definitely found something), they mark the report as "unfounded" and file it away for some odd years. They were let in each time and most they did was have a short look around (checked out fire detectors and kidlet's room to check for any safety concerns like a bed near a window or something). They asked a bunch of questions, most of which were related to the concerns. They offered services just in case I needed them. It was surprising to hear from one of the ladies that there are people that call up CPS for themselves so they could get referral to services, so rather than being a big scary entity threatening to take kids away all the time, they can actually be helpful to some people - they're focused on keeping the family together and only in very legit cases where there is solid evidence of abuse or neglect do they break families up and place kids elsewhere. Since your kid is well taken care of and not going without necessities, it's extremely unlikely that CPS would do anything more than just hang around for a bit doing their routine of questions and checking for working fire detectors before leaving and you getting a paper in the mail saying the report was unfounded.

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