Can you help me understand why this relationship that felt so fated, was the most painful thing ive ever experienced? Im the taurus rising.

This is the synastry of a relationship that was incredibly strange and harmful, and we are now something akin to enemies that never want to cross paths again. It triggered both our deepest wounds, and the 12 h stellium person was incredibly deceptive, in ways that ive never witnessed in my life. The relationship was abusive emotionally and physically for me, and it crashed and burnt so suddenly for me. Despite this i still feel very connected to this person. And have felt this way since i met this person many years ago. The amount of pain it put me through forced me to wake up from my own illusions and jumpstarted my spiritual awakening.

I would like to hear your observations on whats happening here.

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