Can one of you please just tell me I am an asshole?

I am the husband with conservative SDA and often batshit crazy parents. Here is my perspective.

You definitely have frustrations and you aren't being an asshole. Your perspective is quite valid and I hope your spouse works with you and these frustrations. That being said, this is a difficult situation and could easily see my wife posting the same thing.. especially since my conservative SDA family came to visit at a very bad time and then my dad had to go to the hospital. My wife is so frustrated and in similar shoes!

As a spouse with difficult parents, its very hard for me because I love my family even while knowing they're batshit crazy. I often feel like I have to deal with my parents, protect my wife from them, comfort my wife from them and then deal with my wife's frustration with them. Notice that most of the stuff I have to work with is my wife? I know how to deal with batshit crazy family, but its difficult to work with my wife because I care about her more. She's where most of my family stress comes from. When my family comes to visit me, I don't have as much of a safe place and my bedroom feels like the debriefing room of handling the day's events, and often I cannot perceive the day's events and current happenings in the moment because its overwhelming.

/r/exAdventist Thread