I have a difficult time finding porn I like because it’s so focused on male pleasure and stimulus. And I like and am aroused by the male orgasm.

I can't watch porn that's directed by men. More women need to direct, because the product they create is infinitely more sexy and doesn't gross me out the way most male-directed stuff does.

I can think of 3 men who were offended I didn’t want them to cum on my face. Like I’m pretty wild in the sack but that’s just a no go.

Ffs. Do they not understand what can happen if it gets in your eye? And the cleanup seems like it would be unpleasant, too. That's a hard limit for me as well; thinking about it makes me never want to put my face near a penis again.

I’ve been nagged for sex, had a guy not only not warn me he was about to blow his load during oral but he also suddenly jammed his dick down my throat and I inhaled ejaculate (it is very unpleasant to cough up), I’ve had my vagina scratched to shit to the point of bleeding even after repeated attempts to slow him down, telling him his nails are too long and that it hurts, physically pulling away and then he was surprised I was actually bleeding (like did he think I was lying?). I’ve been coerced into anal (not a fan but will do if asked nicely and properly planned, again this was nagged into).

Wow, that's remarkably similar to some of what I've experienced. I almost threw up on the ex's dick when he suddenly forced my head down and ejaculated. He ended up with more of it on him than was in my mouth, and I'm ok with that.

I've never been scratched up down there, thank God, but I've also been coerced into anal sex. Same guy, of course. He was a catch. I was 16 and didn't know it wasn't consentual because my shit sex ed class never even mentioned the word consent. The final time he did that to me, it hurt so much I couldn't stop crying. He freaked the fuck out on me. He said I made him feel like a rapist by crying during and after. Like, if the boot fits, wear it.

And the weirdest one was my first partner was into vore (I did not know this at the time, found out later) - specifically unbirthing. Non consensual attempts to literally shove his face inside my vagina.

Yiiiikes.

There is a very prevalent attitude among men that women exist for their pleasure and should find pleasure in that, not their own.

It’s infuriating.

Agreed. My only solace is in the fact that I know I'll kick anyone who treats me like that to the curb after the years I spent being disrespected and used.

But I shouldn't have to guard myself against that. No one should.