I get that this is what some people wanted for themselves. But since everything about having children is a nightmare for me, and even objectively difficult even when it's worth it to you, I can't help but to feel pity.

Starting with pregnancy which for a tokophobic vain girl who can't stand being told what to do and who loves alcohol seems like living hell. Especially after hearing about what it does to the body.

Then comes the life of raising a child. I'm an introvert. I am so happy to have time for me alone after work and I love the luxury of Sometimes not having to do anything. To think I'd have to care for a child is beyond my capacities, Especially since I find everything related to childcare to be boring. However even people who love kids don't actually love having to worry about meals, having to do homework, having to clean them, waking up early etc. I don't know any parent who actually saying they love and enjoy the activities that come daily with raising kids, they just say that at the end of the day it's for someone they love so it's worth it.

I am glad that people I love are adults whom I don't have to give so much energy for, therefore I get to do whatever I actually want and enjoy with most of my time.

As for money, of course that being cf doesn't make you automatically rich, but I am happy to have the option of not being rich or making radical career changes because no one depends on me.

Romantically I like that fact that my relationship is about us two and that we have time to both be alone and together. I like to be the no one human. Sometimes a lot of parents, not all of course, put each other second to the kid or are even mainly still together for the kid who ironically causes the resentments in the first place.

I feel pity when I listen to and about most parents who relate their lives, and there is a lot of uncomfortable sacrifice, dead hopes and dreams, tiredness, depression and lack of freedom conveyed. Of course you might not be such parent and maybe you don't feel like you gave up anything important to you and enjoy your time with kids, but that's not as usual as you make it seem. Even when they add the obligatory "but it's all worth it" at the end.