Need to move on. Sorry that you were out through that situation and now this experience will stick with u forever. Trust will come a bit harder for the next person you let in your life. Think what if it was you in the others shoes. Would they forgive you? Would they think it's not a big deal l? Does it make a difference to them that u came clean about it?.. I'm sorry but NO and women have this mentality that when they don't it's not so bad they have all these excuses yo justify their actions but when men do it, well its over men get labeled as cheating pigs and no excuse to them will justify your actions and you can never be forgiven or if the women decides to forgive, well buddy they will never forget and will always bring it up in any trust situation. So why should women get a pass ? No I say move