Can someone help me understand the SEO?? My video isn't showing up in the 1st, 2nd, 3rd, even 4th page of results, searching for the exact words in the title.

You can rank #1 without having a ton of views depending on how well your title, description and tags are so don't sell yourself short and think you can't do it.

For example for a specific search term, I rank #1 on page 1. My video has 8.2k views. The next couple of videos under mine are all from huge channels and their views for their video are 160k, 422k, 1.5M and 2.8M. Yes, my 8.2k video ranks above theirs.

Even more then that, if you search the same term on Google my YouTube video comes up #2 on page 1 right under a Toys R Us ad.

It has a lot to do with wording and how specific you are in your title, tag and description. Now if you use an exact term that has high competition and you are a smaller channel you are going to have a hard time ranking it unless you are early to the game. So you want to find terms and phrases that are low to medium competition and and nail those in order to rank and you very can rank it high on page 1.

Of course ranking a phrase that has no search traffic isn't going to do anything for you.

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