Can someone help this "non girly" girl??

I was very girly for years because of pressure from my mother. When I got married, I kind of jetted all of that because I could and in the past year I've slowly been rediscovering the parts of "girlyness" that I actually like.

  1. Good skin. I don't always wear a lot of makeup, but when my skin looks healthy, I feel pretty. I have rosacea which makes my skin red, so I wear foundation most days. I would recommend finding skincare products that make you feel awesome. Get into a routine with that first, and then think about makeup later. Paula's Choice Beautypedia is a great place for discovering quality products that won't break your bank.

  2. Find a good hairstylist. Like, save up for an expensive haircut and then ask them to teach you how to do your hair. Any good hairstylist will do this. You can look online for ways to determine your face shape and hairstyles that will look good with your shape and hair type. I have a round face and really fine hair. This means that long hair looks pretty terrible on me without a lot of daily effort. Therefore, I have shorter hair that lets me feel pretty without a ton of daily maintenance. I hate lots of daily maintenance. Once you know what looks good on you, then you can start youtubing away because you'll know right away what will and won't work. Alternatively, if there is a hair school in your area you can probably find students on Craigslist that are looking for hair models. This means a free haircut or color for you. It might be terrible, but it will allow you to get an idea of what you do and do not like.

  3. Find some classic, well-fitting clothes to start. I wouldn't try out any wild fashions to begin with. Just go to Marshall's or TJ Maxx and try on a wide variety of "staples". These are things like boot cut jeans, solid-colored t-shirts, etc. Only buy things that feel AND look amazing on you. You can have both. It just takes a little bit of effort to find. Once you have those, you can start experimenting with different accents like scarves and layering. It's important to just get the size and shape and comfort down first, because then you'll FEEL good. The best style choices happen when you already feel good. It's hard not to feel confident when you are wearing something that fits well and is a flattering shape no matter what it is.

I hope this helps! I've been slowly layering on the pretty as I feel comfortable and I feel so much better and so... myself. Good luck!

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